We all have seen someone stalk, right? It’s a very big bold line. Admiration is legal and sweet while stalking is not. Admiration is regarding someone as impressive and worthy of respect whereas stalking is an unwanted surveillance of someone, its obsessive and probably even dangerous in most cases.
In today’s society, healthy admiration can even be considered to be creepy. With the risen awareness and people finally voicing their grievances, one should know their boundaries and shouldn’t cross it. Even while pursuing someone romantically, once they say they’re not interested, thats when you get the hint and leave them alone because you cannot and should not stalk your way into someone’s heart.
‘Stalking for love’ is a popular media trope where an invasive stalker-like behaviour is presented as endearing or harmless part of romantic courtship. The hero will often go to extraordinary lengths to manipulate his way into a women’s life. We have watched thousands of tv shows and have read endless books where its romantic, but really, NO! Its not romantic, its all mind-games and abusive in a less obvious, subtle way.
Now, you could respect a deer and stalk it as a hunter, say. But to stalk a human? That's tricky. On the one hand, you could say that Patton and Rommel both respected and hunted one another. There was a reverence as there is among worthy. They were opponents in a war.
Certainly behavior and intentions plays a big role as well. But the truth is, if ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ was about a mechanic living in an islolated scrapyard with male pattern baldness and a bad thyroid, well… it wouldn't be a romance.
In conclusion, because we all have different levels of tolerance regarding who knows what information about us and also different perspectives on how they affect our lives. Ultimately what determines stalking behaviour is how the other individual in the relationship takes it, whether the other person is opposing it or encouraging the behaviour.
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